का झोंबतं जेव्हा कोणी चुका दाखवतं? | How to take feedback |
Criticism ऐकायला आवडत नाही… feedback टाळतो… का? कारण, आपल्याला वाटतं की feedback म्हणजे अपमान, तर actual मध्ये तो एक mirror असतो. या व्हिडिओत मी सांगतो: Feedbac...
Avinash Chate - Leadership Coach at employee engagement session Why Feedback Hurts—and How I Learned to Use It for Growth Criticism is rarely easy to hear. Even the most capable professionals, managers, and leaders feel a sting when someone points out a mistake, a blind spot, or a weakness. I have seen this repeatedly in training rooms, leadership conversations, and coaching discussions across industries. The truth is simple: feedback feels uncomfortable because we often confuse it with rejection. Key takeaway: Feedback is not an attack on your identity; it is information about your performance, and when you learn to receive it well, your growth accelerates. As Avinash Chate, a TEDx speaker and author of The Winning Edge , I have worked with professionals from 1,000+ organizations, and one pattern stands out clearly. People do not resist feedback because they hate improvement. They resist it because feedback touches the ego before it reaches the intellect. Watch on YouTube → Why Feedback Feels So Personal When someone says, “You could have handled that better,” our mind often translates it into, “You are not good enough.” That is where the discomfort begins. The words may be about a presentation, a decision, a conversation, or a leadership style, but internally, many people experience it as a judgment of self-worth. This is why feedback can trigger defensiveness, silence, excuses, or even withdrawal. We are not reacting only to the words. We are reacting to what those words seem to mean about us. I have noticed that high performers are especially vulnerable to this. They care deeply about doing well. They want to be respected. So when flaws are pointed out, they feel an internal clash between their self-image and the new information being offered. But growth begins the moment we stop asking, “Why are they saying this to me?” and start asking, “What can this teach me?” The Real Difference Between Criticism and Feedback Not all criticism is useful, and not all feedback is delivered well. That is true. Some people speak carelessly. Some point out faults without context. Some use tone in a way that creates resistance. However, if we reject every uncomfortable message because the delivery was imperfect, we lose valuable insight. I prefer to look at feedback as a mirror. A mirror does not insult you. It only shows you what is there. You may not like what you see in that moment, but the mirror gives you a chance to correct, improve, and present yourself better. In my sessions, I often tell participants that mature professionals separate message from manner . If the manner is poor, you can still learn from the message. If the message is weak, you can discard it without emotional drama. This emotional discipline is what helps leaders grow faster than others. That is one reason feedback plays such an important role in the KITE Leadership Framework. Leadership is not built only through confidence and communication. It is also built through self-awareness, a…
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By Avinash Chate — Maharashtra's #1 Corporate Trainer & Motivational Speaker. Published 2026-03-18.