Praful's Angry Email: How One "Reply" Button Can Undo Years of Work
Praful was exhausted, his boss sent honest feedback, and he hit reply before he had processed his anger. His story is the clearest lesson I teach on Self-Control — the fourth trait on the EQ side of the Winning Kite.
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