The Five Faces of Conflict: TKI Styles Every Leader Must Recognise
Competing, collaborating, compromising, avoiding, accommodating — the Thomas-Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument gives you five distinct ways to handle disagreement at work. Here is how to recognise each one in real Indian workplace moments and choose the right style on purpose.
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