Kumar & Mr. Nagargoje: The Counseling Session That Shows What Active Listening Really Costs
Inside a rehabilitation centre in Maharashtra, a counselor named Mr. Nagargoje said almost nothing in an entire session — and it became the turning point in Kumar's recovery. Here's what that silence teaches every manager about Active Listening, the RQ tool most professionals skip.
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